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Mark Humphrys notes:
Another cause of crime is clearly the breakdown of the family, the absence of fathers, and an increased toleration for the abandonment of mothers and children while men move on in search of more fulfilling sexual relationships. The almost total breakdown of the traditional family is a dominant feature, perhaps the most dominant feature, of high-crime, “underclass” areas in the West.
When a family breaks up, it’s a sad thing, but the stats of fathers leaving the family may show something that isn’t obvious.
Why does the father leave? Mr. Humphrys says it’s because “men move on in search of more fulfilling sexual relationships.” I have to disagree.
I say that the fathers leave because they are expected to leave. That’s what men have to do when the home life isn’t bearable. Women and children stay in the environment that was created for their security and comfort, while men are expected to move on, to have the resilience to recreate their life outside this comfort and security. Men are expected to be wanderers and are expected to be strong enough to survive without social life support until they can create a new home for themselves and another mate.
So we blame men for leaving when it’s actually what we expect of them. While the movie “The War Of The Roses” is a comedic farce, the reason the story works is because the situation is just wrong: a man and a woman, having lost whatever bond they tried to create, cannot stay in the same place.
But let’s not overlook a possible root cause of the breakdown of the union. A societal issue that seems to be coming more and more to the fore: men can’t trust women.
Ooooh, sounds mysoginistic, doesn’t it? Of course if I said, “women can’t trust men”, everyone would take that as fact. Of course they can’t, men are lying cheats and evil. Nope, sorry.
It is my contention that that too many women don’t know how to be comfortable in a relationship. With all the TV shows telling them how to act, all the magazines telling them how not to act, and all the music telling them what they are, they’ve simply lost any real base; they don’t know what to be. Further, they don’t know how to treat men because of all the conflicting information shoved into their heads.
This confusion leads to a very poor home life for any man, often from the dissatisfaction of the woman. If you can’t please her, and she can’t please herself, it’s constant strife. Most men want nothing more than to make their woman happy; a happy woman is a happy home, and a happy home has less stress. A happy home is an oasis from the soothsayers and naysayers who prognosticate from “on high” somewhere.
Also, a man has to be able to trust his woman. She can’t be a blabbermouth or his community standing is diminished, along with hers for being a gossip. Please, women of the world, you have to be smarter, more emotionally secure, or the happiness we all are looking for is never going to grow.
On a side note, love usually doesn’t last… well, not the love that you feel when you two first meet. The giddy euphoria of new love will fade, but it needs to be replaced by something else. That something else has to be mutual respect and trust in one another. Without new love growing into lasting love, there’s nothing but a void. [Men, of course, need to earn the trust and respect of their woman, too.]
To conclude, the breakdown of the family has many causes, but some instances — more and more, it seems — are caused by unsatisfied women. If a man can’t trust his woman, then he doesn’t have a woman at all.
For everyone who thinks that their vote doesn’t matter. For everyone that thinks it’s inconvenient and troublesome and bothersome and worrisome to go vote on election day, Irish TV has the answer:
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(Taken from the Glenn and Helen Show, November 5, 2006, podcast)
Yes, your vote affects the world. The entire planet. How BILLIONS of people will live. People who have no voice here are deeply and personally affected by your political choices.
It was off and on rain in central Florida today. Overcast, warm (of course), and not at all pleasant. As soon as I opened the door to go to vote, I thought to myself, “People aren’t going to vote because they’ll complain about the rain, how bothersome it is to go through some sprinkles to do this chore, and they’ll opt out.”
I’d say most of the people I know don’t vote. It’s sad, really. I’m the responsible one in my group of associates, both real and digital, and that kinda frightens me. Hell, I cuss and rant and say super rude things online, how did I get to be the smart one? This is bullshit!
All “big fish in a small mental pond” thoughts aside, I’ve debated about going to vote or not. I dislike most of the candidates, and finding info on the other candidates besides democrats and republicans isn’t exactly one-click easy. However, I always try to get out when an election is set. I consider it a duty, a civic obligation, a trust placed in me by men of wisdom and foresight whom I’ll never meet but proudly call my founding fathers. In other words, it’s important. Shirking this duty leaves me feeling bad about myself. Sometimes I wondered, “Why bother?”
Those Irish journalists succinctly put that question to rest. Why bother? Because what I think does affect the world. My political actions help to decide the fate of men.
Voting as a citizen of the United States of America is not just a chore that has to be done every once in a while, it’s a responsibility to the billions of people on this planet.
It’s important.
No, it’s THUNDEROUSLY IMPORTANT.
If you skipped out on voting today, you should feel shame. You’ve literally let down your fellow man… every single one of them.
